Therapy is an investment. Therefore, finding the right fit with your therapist is critical. Just like I encourage clients to interview a few therapists along their process, I also look for certain qualities in my clients to ensure we are going to work well together. If we aren’t a match, no worries, I am always happy to pass along a referral.

So about my ideal client…

You are a seeker. An explorer at heart. You are ready to make a change but you aren’t sure how to get there. You are probably a wounded healer, creative entrepreneur, expert in your craft, and/or are a mother seeking deeper connection with your children than the one you had growing up.

You view this work as an investment in not only yourself but the generation that follows. You are tenacious and driven, ready to put in the work and yearning for deep, long lasting change. While you’re interviewing therapists you are listening for someone who knows who they are, the light and the dark, because deep down you are seeking to know these depths of yourself as well. You are expecting to work with someone who knows what they are doing. You also may have worked with other therapists in the past but found that there wasn’t any change happening. You’re seeking to be challenged and transformed, not just seeking a conversation with a friendly face.

You also probably grew up in a home where your parents did their best but for whatever reason, they weren’t able to see you and tend to you the way you deserved. When you are trying to connect with people you might be nervous because they are “normal” and for some reason, you feel like you aren’t. And what even is a healthy relationship? Oh, you are also probably a Millennial, Gen X, or a Baby Boomer.

Now, let me tell you about us.

Together we are going to take a peek at how your childhood is influencing your self-esteem, connection with your partner, parenting style, and/or confidence in exploring new ways of being etc. By focusing on the root of the issue, we are ensuring that your investment is time and money well spent. It’s important to note that this is not the same as blaming your caregivers for whatever is going on today. While you didn’t get here on your own, I totally believe it’s your responsibility to do the work and make change. We get nowhere by crossing our arms and throwing a fit – ya know? And I get that you are busy and have plenty of other things to spend your money on, so let’s make sure the change we bring forth is going to last. We all have an origin story. Let’s look at yours so that we can write a new chapter infused with transformation and freedom.

In case you are interested in the behind the scenes..

So, I use Pia Mellody’s model of Developmental Immaturity as a map to help you get access to the tools you need to bring some balance to your present as well as healing your inner child so that we can finish unfinished business from childhood. Also. In case you’re into this sort of thing. I understand my clients through a psychodynamic lens and utilize person centered, experiential, and cognitive-behavioral techniques to support clients in making active progress in treatment.

In session we are going to tend not only to your mind (unlearning any unhealthy beliefs you may have stored away) as well as restore your connection to your body. Trauma lives in your body, begging to be seen and heard. So, I believe in trusting your body to lead us where we need to go toward healing. Our bodies are profoundly sacred teachers, connecting to their wisdom will instill confidence to carry you forward far beyond our time together.

Also, in case you’re wondering what unresolved childhood issues may look like, here’s a quick list:

• Low energy or motivation
• Feeling nervous and/or difficulty concentrating
• Feeling like no matter how hard you try, you aren’t enough
• Repeating the same toxic patterns in romantic relationships
• Strained family relationships
• Codependency
• Addiction issues
• Low self-esteem
• Constantly feeling on edge or like you can’t relax
• Difficulty understanding and setting healthy boundaries

Sound familiar? Let’s connect!