“Trauma” is a huge buzz word right now. But what does that mean? Trauma is anything that is overwhelming for your brain, which, as you can imagine, opens us up to a plethora of events that can be considered traumatic throughout our lifetime.
My expertise is in working with people who have experienced childhood trauma (also known as developmental trauma) and are wanting to more deeply understand how this is effecting their current lives. A few ways unresolved childhood trauma can show up includes:
Obviously, this isn’t an exhaustive list but you get the idea.
So this part is important. I am a big advocate of prioritizing the right fit for therapy rather than getting as many clients as I can. I intentionally maintain a small caseload so that I can provide high tier services and as a result, my clients make progress.
But this relationship is a two way street and you get out of this process what you put into it. Over the years I’ve discovered who my ideal client is and who just lights up my heart to work with. So let’s see if we’re a good fit.
You are a seeker. An explorer at heart. You are ready to make a change but you aren’t sure how to get there. You are probably a wounded healer, creative entrepreneur, expert in your craft, and/or are a mother seeking deeper connection with your children than the one you had growing up.
You view this work as an investment in not only yourself but the generation that follows. You are tenacious and driven, ready to put in the work and yearning for deep, long lasting change. While you’re interviewing therapists you are listening for someone who knows who they are, the light and the dark, because deep down you are seeking to know these depths of yourself as well. You are expecting to work with someone who knows what they are doing. You also may have worked with other therapists in the past but found that there wasn’t any change happening. You’re seeking to be challenged and transformed, not just seeking a conversation with a friendly face.
You also probably grew up in a home where your parents did their best but for whatever reason, they weren’t able to see you and tend to you the way you deserved. When you are trying to connect with people you might be nervous because they are “normal” and for some reason, you feel like you aren’t. And what even is a healthy relationship? Oh, you are also probably a Millennial, Gen X, or a Baby Boomer.
Ok so if you’ve made it this far, you are my people. Here’s a little more about what to expect when we start working together. In session we are going to tend not only to your mind (unlearning any unhealthy beliefs you may have stored away) as well as restore your connection to your body. Trauma lives in your body, begging to be seen and heard. So, I believe in trusting your body to lead us where we need to go toward healing.
I use Pia Mellody’s model of Developmental Immaturity as a map to help you get access to the tools you need to bring some balance to your present as well as healing your inner child so that we can finish unfinished business from childhood. Also. In case you’re into this sort of thing. I understand my clients through a psychodynamic lens and utilize person centered, experiential, and cognitive-behavioral techniques to support clients in making active progress in treatment.
This work is my passion because I’ve lived it. I’ve experienced the pain and heart break along with the life giving freedom that comes from facing your past and discovering your authentic self. I was raised in a home with lots of pain and untreated mental health issues that led to a lot of childhood trauma to overcome. As I continue to face the ongoing work that comes with breaking the cycle of generational trauma I walk with and speak not only from clinical expertise but also personal experience to my clients as they start their own journeys.
My business is family run and therefore has a different feel to it. I hold firm boundaries because raising my family and enjoying the life I have built are my first priority. I am enlivened as I teach my clients to ask for the same zest out of life.
How long does trauma therapy take?
This one, like most answers in therapy, is it depends. However, I can tell you that with my approach, most of my clients come and work with me between 3-5 years give or take. This is incredibly individualized for each person and what they are looking for. But my approach isn’t a quick bandaid. Its a major overhaul for folks who are really looking for long-lasting change. That doesn’t come in a 6-8 session package, it comes with a long-term therapeutic relationship.
How can trauma therapy help me?
Again, it depends. But the biggest thing that I have found for my clients is that it helps them uncover who they are before the trauma stripped away their safety. It also helps you feel safer in your body. In terms of what this looks like for you personally, it’s tough to say without knowing your story. But I encourage you to think, what symptoms brought you to this page? What would life be like with more self-compassion, self-understanding, and without those symptoms.
Does trauma therapy make you feel worse?
This is a common question and it’s important. I’ve very up front with my clients that my approach will first lead to more pain as we face whatever has been avoided before there is relief from symptoms. Either way, your body is carrying this pain. With therapy we just give the pain a voice and allow it to flow out to be transformed.
Do you accept insurance?
I am an out-of-network provider which means I do not accept insurance. However, I can provide a superbill, which some insurance companies will reimburse you for. More info on fees here.